Not too long ago, there have been high profile instances of domestic violence, of spouse against spouse. One particular In Ibadan earned a lady lawyer seven years imprisonment for killing her husband. Also in Abuja, the son of a former National Chairman of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) was allegedly murdered in cold blood by his wife who stabbed him severally. Prior to now, what was more frequent was the killing of wives by their husband.
Having said that, who gets killed and by whom is not as vital as the reality that domestic violence in whatever way it rears its ugly head need to not be condoned. Its influence on the family, particularly the trauma it visits on the kids, is incalculable. The stigma it leaves behind can trail a family for generations.
Some years back, when a equivalent incident took spot, we had trigger to speak up against it then. As at that time, our argument remains the same as we recall that specific unfortunate circumstance.. We hope that prison terms will support in deterring couples from picking out that path as the way out of what ever is the issue. We can only add that just before the harm is accomplished, a visit to a marriage counsellor can save an ugly outcome of a messy marital partnership. That editorial is right here reproduced.
Akolade Arowolo, as a young man, newly married, had plans for the future with his banker wife, Titilayo. But that plan was derailed on June 24, 2011 which curiously was his birth day. On that day, he was alleged to have stabbed his wife and mother of his only kid 76 occasions till she died. But that dastardly act ceased to be an allegation as quickly as Justice Lateefat Okunnu of the Ikeja High Court, Lagos, after a 31 month trial, and based on overwhelming evidence by witnesses, found him guilty and sentenced him to death.
Prior to that fateful day, the couple who had been barely two years old in their marriage, have been reported to have had a stormy relationship causing his late wife to flee on 10 occasions as a result of the man’s perceived fiery temper. But on each occasion, she had to come back residence, a lot against the warnings of her father, due to the fact she believed that her seemingly remorseful husband was certainly repentant. It was also said that she was, indeed, organizing to divorce her husband. This was inexplicably delayed and it turned fatal.
A lot has been mentioned and written about domestic violence. The most familiar is wife battering or a lady poisoning her husband’s food. But this particular incident of a man becoming so furious to the point of giving his wife 76 knife stabs and killing her in the process is unprecedented and bestial in its cruelty.
Having said that, we are also persuaded to ask, did this lady not know this man before deciding to live with him as his wife? Was the marriage a product of one particular of these child-like infatuations based on the stupid aphorism that the very first impression is the greatest impression? Was there no courtship for the duration of which period the couple would have located out factors about themselves? Had been their parents effectively-disposed to the connection and were happy sufficient to give their consent? Again, are we just to run with the impression that it was all the man’s fault, that the woman did not play any part in the circumstances that led to her untimely death? Could she have provoked him to the point that he could not be placated? Significantly as we are stridently against murder under any guise, some of these queries are germane to the problem. But they are academic now since the lady is dead and the man is on his way to death.
We are repulsed by the immensity of this wickedness regardless of what may well have taken spot involving the couple that led to the unfortunate incident and as a result agree with Justice Okunnu that the society is far better off without having the likes of Arowolo. Even if his wife was a monster, he had the choice to return her to her parents. Terminating her young life ought not to have been part of the calculation.